The masculine energy I was using to produce albums, manage relationships with bandmates, producers, promoters, co-writers, and assistants was not working in my love life. I was smart, funny, and at 35, still fit into my prom dress. But every guy I attracted bolted after short, exciting cycles, or vague friendships where I accepted crumbs and hoped and prayed for more. I couldn’t understand why.
Recording “Better”, summer 2006
I was constantly wondering how so many incredible and professionally fulfilled women over 35 were unmarried and discovered at that time, according to the NY Times, that 51% of women were living without a spouse for the first time in US history. I no longer felt alone. I felt a kinship with women I hadn’t yet met, and together with them (energetically) I started asking, “How did we all get here?”
51% of American women are living without a spouse for the first time in U.S. history
MeetingPat Allen after I moved back to Los Angeles from Nashville, (on a hunch my true love was there) radically changed my life. Seeking and utilizing her research and teachings, and seeing them work in my life heavily influenced this podcast. I met my husband six weeks before my 40th birthday. I knew in about two weeks that he was my husband. (but I did not tell anyone that!!!)
New Year’s Eve 2012, with my (now) husband Oliver at the home of the couple that set us up on a blind date, We had been dating for 3 months. Pure JOY.
Getting married at 41, when I had anticipated getting married in my twenties, was a journey I really want to share, in the hopes of helping women and men out there adjust to this new "normal" and find true love. Or, maybe you found love early in life, and have been married for over a decade and feel frustrated and sad that you can't find the spark you once had. In that case, I want to help you keep true love.
Now I continue to write and perform songs, while helping people (every Tuesday!) utilize masculine and feminine energies through simple and clear words and behaviors. I believe conscious habits can lead to liberating, lasting love, intimacy and joy. I plan to boast married couples as a result of my podcast, because they got liberated from sabotaging behaviors that kept them from their heart’s desires. I have an abiding faith that my listeners will meet their match, or rekindle their existing love relationship.