Posts tagged #truelove
Empaths and Energy Vampires

Have you ever entered a relationship with someone and questioned their integrity but felt convinced that you will be the one to receive the best of them, despite the questionable motives and behaviors that they have displayed? Have you ever left an encounter with a person and felt like you could fall fast asleep? Have you ever been flooded with surprising emotions at moments, and at others, unable to sense what you yourself are feeling inside?

You may be an empath.

It's imperative to understand yourself better if you are, because you'll require specific tools for self care, and you'll need to become aware that you're a magnet for people who maintain difficult personality traits.

In this week's podcast, live Tuesday morning, July 24th, I share my experience of two radically informative books on the topic, which are both easy to purchase on the books page of this website: The Empath's Survival Guide by Dr. Judith Orloff, and Dodging Energy Vampires by Dr. Christiane Northrup.

Thank you for listening!!

Sweetest Surrender

My new album "Sweetest Surrender" is out today (podcast theme song) and this week's podcast is a peek into some insight and fun facts about where the songs came from. I hope you enjoy the music!!

Direct Communication: On Repair

I once heard Tony Robbins say something like 'if every married person behaved the way they did the first week they met their spouse, even after years together, no one would split up.' Are you polite to your spouse? Being rational and direct usually involves being kind. Today is on repair. Whether you've been married for awhile or you just hit your first bump in the road with the person you're dating, this is a review of some concepts created by Pat Allen and taught at the WANT Institute on rational communication and repair.

My Mother's Day Club
I was several weeks late on my wedding day and found out that morning I was not pregnant. It was our 3rd month of trying and I marked it as officially not being in the "effortless conception" birthmother club. I knew intuitively that day another path may be planned for me.

I was several weeks late on my wedding day and found out that morning I was not pregnant. It was our 3rd month of trying and I marked it as officially not being in the "effortless conception" birthmother club. I knew intuitively that day another path may be planned for me.

This is the first Mother’s Day in four years of trying to become pregnant and then giving up on becoming pregnant that I don’t care about the club I'm not in. The didn't-try, oooops, I got pregnant when my husband looked at me, I drank tequila and got pregnant, I didn't think it would happen that fast, infuriating, effortless conception birthmother club. I actually don't care. It's delicious. I might tomorrow, but I don't today. I didn't plan to write this, but I must, while it's here. It just arrived. Clear, blissful awareness: I don't care.

This day used to be like the peak of a mountain of the hot, cramping shame that comes with only giving birth to pain. To release this shame is to realize I am in a club. Every woman who miscarried, crossed the threshold into a cold clinic, experienced not hours but years of labor before seeing her birthchildren, or raised and loved like there was DNA when there was not, is in my club. Every woman who thinks only of those going through what she went through and names their pain when she posts her children's baby pictures (or names it by rarely or never posting) is in my club. And especially, the "unexplained infertility" woman who wanted to and did not conceive, miscarry, or give birth is in my Mother's Day club. We may not know surprise in a pierce and tug below the navel, or our birth children, but damn...we know ourselves.

My Mother's Day club includes stepmoms, especially the ones that concentrate on offering what they needed and did or didn’t get. I don’t require anything from our boys so that I can feel better, and I see the relief in their eyes when they know I am here for them, not me. The gift is, they let me know them. They share their lives with me. It's not on display, and it is real, alive, and unbreakable. I went through a lot to be able to understand and create that, and I'm proud of myself, and satisfied and content with our busy daily life. For that, I am able to gratefully receive Mother's Day wishes from absolutely anyone, annual flowers from my my mom, and great gifts my husband.

Here is my club's mission-ish statement, in case you want to join. "I am enough, and most of the time it feels good to have gone with the will of the wind and not a fixed fantasy." As in hospital photos on Instagram. Sometimes it bewilders and shocks me mine only got taken after surgery. Alone, drowsy, my husband holding up his phone camera saying "babe, you look really pretty". I still sense psychic echoes of a growing girl-child with one shoe under her bed and another in the car that make me feel crazy. I count how old she would've been from a successful procedure date. Sometimes it hurts so bad I have to find a powder room to cry in and I feel my heart actually spasm. I don't eat it or work it away anymore like at first. I have the guts to sit and feel it, and the heart strength that comes of sitting with it gets passed on to everyone I love, especially my man. It also goes to all my friends who had and are having babies. I get to actually feel happy for them. It's a miracle, and they are welcome in my club. All effortless conception birthmothers are. We are in this together.

I carry on in the way that works for me: believing that if that was my fate it would have happened, and that I prefer to relax, let go and trust. You may have a different way to carry on. In my club, everyone gets their own way and no one tells them what it is- they find it out on their own. In my club, happy endings are Divinely Ordered and they all look different. Deep womanhood and abiding motherhood apply to a vast array of people to love, projects to deliver, and experiences to cherish. In my club, we know that yearning and learning have a place in a woman's life, for all she may not see today, but will.

You are not alone.

Love,
Amy

P.S. write me if you feel like it. somethingbetterpodcast@gmail.com This week's podcast is an interview with Bestselling author Claire Bidwell Smith, who is an incredibly vulnerable, truthful writer and definitely inspired me to write this.

 
An Interview With Empowering Goddess Gabby Reece
Gabby Reece and Laird Hamilton

Gabby Reece and Laird Hamilton

World renowned athlete Gabby Reece is my guest on the podcast this week! She was open and intimate about being married (with three kids) to Big Wave surfer and innovator Laird Hamilton and gracious to have taken time to share her experience with us. I'm on the path of leaving my comfort zone so my dreams can come true too, right along with you. Yes, I feel vulnerable and odd when I'm asking people to meet me on the web for an interview, but it is always worth it no matter the outcome. Gabby is a personal hero and walks Something Better talk. I am super grateful to have had this chance to share an hour of her full life. Listen in, pick up her NY Times Bestseller My Foot is Too Big for the Glass Slipper and email me your thoughts! somethingbetterpodcast@gmail.com

xo
Amy

 
Just One of the Guys
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Hey Single Girls, is taking your platonic place among a group of guys and joining in the sarcasm and shrugging becoming a place for you to hide your fear of vulnerability? This week I heard from a listener who left messages about her experience of that on the Something Better Google voicemail. (323-999-1536) I called her "Just One of the Guys" and I love her guts-- to freely let it all out on the voicemail and open up out of a genuine willingness to change. Is she alone? I doubt it. If you relate to what you hear, please let me know at somethingbetterpodcast@gmail.com!

 

 

 

 
#MeToo 2 with actress/filmmaker Alexandra Kyle
 
Stunner and rising star Alexandra (Alix) Kyle

Stunner and rising star Alexandra (Alix) Kyle

After last week's #metoo conversation I was thrilled to hear from Alexandra Kyle, (13 Going on 30, Justified) who had listened. Our quick chat about it led to her being a guest on the podcast! She shares about her path with regards to the international #metoo conversation, her short film "Anxiety's Wilma", (out Feb. 2018) and using creativity as an outlet and a north star for facing changes and challenges.

 
 
Into #metoo You See
Age 29. Just a baby...who actually believed that because lots of people in the south go to church, sexual harassment wouldn't be as common as it had been in LA. It was.  Photo by Mickey Dobo, Nashville, TN

Age 29. Just a baby...who actually believed that because lots of people in the south go to church, sexual harassment wouldn't be as common as it had been in LA. It was.

Photo by Mickey Dobo, Nashville, TN

I am still re-living the feeling I had while I listened to Oprah's Golden Globes speech last night. I couldn't NOT do a podcast on the #metoo movement today. 20 years swam around my mind during her speech. At 23 I left Chicago and Second City for LA, thinking geography would clear up the discomfort of most male dominated meetings and auditions. Then I left LA for Nashville because I figured I could better navigate the shark infested waters of the entertainment industry in a smaller town, with my songs protecting me. Truth is there was no escaping the jaws of creepy, and honestly I didn't COMPLETELY know until last night IT was something that needed to change, not ME. I didn't fully realize that I've long felt unfinished in taking responsibility, because you can't take responsibility FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S STUFF. Listening to Oprah has changed me, and I felt it, as it was happening, in real time. Something old, and scared, and bundled up...unraveled in my soul. I'm tired of tiptoeing and silence. I want to be in a conversation about how a potent feminine woman has the choice to use her masculine energy to protect herself and name that which is no longer acceptable.

So what happened to me? What now? How do we move on from here? That's what I covered this week. I'm interested in a conversation, and I hope you'll listen, and email me and share with me how this is evolving for you.

xoxo

Amy

somethingbetterpodcast@gmail.com

 
Want rain? Dig Ditches. Want Love? Buy Lingerie. -Dixie Laite
Fabulous Dixie Laite and her adorable husband, Jeff who found love in their forties. Dixie likes to give Jeff trophies for being an awesome husband.

Fabulous Dixie Laite and her adorable husband, Jeff who found love in their forties. Dixie likes to give Jeff trophies for being an awesome husband.

Happy New Year!!

I am SO THRILLED to share my conversation with Dixie Laite and the magical, mystical moment of surrender that led her into a new life of fulfillment with her husband. Dixie is a successful freelance writer, speaker, digital content strategist and branding and social media marketing consultant, and she is fabulous. Find out more at DAMETOWN. Follow her continuing feature beginning  in the January issue of O Magazine!! (O in blue on a Holland Cruise cover)

Keep the faith, Something Better peeps!! It's all happening.

xoxo

Amy