Posts tagged #openheartedtalking
It's Always Working Out

How do men today really feel inside?

The best part about having a podcast is that when I meet a remarkable and interesting person, I get to invite them to have a conversation with us. That's what happened when I recently met a woman named Nancy and we explored this question about men, among other ideas.

Girlfriend Talk with Lauren Murphy
my friend Lauren Murphy. I am SO GRATEFUL for her.

my friend Lauren Murphy. I am SO GRATEFUL for her.

Sometimes, the hardest thing to do when you're single is to be happy for a friend who just met "the One". What is between you and genuine happiness for them? To find out, it's likely going to take some tools. My sister-friend Lauren shares her toolkit and lots of her wisdom nuggets....like the idea that texting is for the ego, connecting in person is for the spirit, and another gem...dating requires giving the guy a break. Make a cup of tea and join us!

xoxo

Amy

Vulnerability is the Hot Ticket to Real Love
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Are you angry that you're still single? Could it be that a fear of vulnerability is keeping you from finding love? Psychologist and master matchmaker Julia Shah and I discuss the perils of knowing yourself and your inner limits without leaving the light on for vulnerable, intimate space for yourself and others. 

I myself am feeling vulnerable as I write this. I am about to get on a plane to my father's funeral. I am feeling small, for all the times I was sitting and working on this podcast, since the spring, and skipping the short available windows around my Dad's naptimes to call him. I wanted to keep working. Suddenly that feels so small and hollow. This would have been there when I got back. I also know that often times, I did call. And he was so wonderful, and so supportive of my endeavors. Among his repertoire: "Bravo, well done, good for you, the best is yet to come, that sounds great, Aim!" My Dad was very prosperous with his language. He did not like swears, even flinched if you said "I swear, I will" or something like that. He consciously used language. "Thank you," "Good" and appreciation was always on the tip of his tongue with every caregiver right til the end of his 83 years. I kept this in mind when I made this a PG podcast. My relationship with my Dad was important to me. It was messy at times, but it was honest. I treasure him, I am grateful for his influence, and the incredible opportunity to have been with him when he passed away, and to have spent the last afternoon of his life singing to him.  

My mission in all these adventures through music and writing and doing this podcast is the same. To help people feel. I am proud of this episode because I believe it contains permission to do just that. To let yourself feel your emotions, whatever they are. I think you can trust that this week, I am no doubt attending my own lecture.

xoxo Amy

 
Do You Fantasize About Leaving Your Spouse?
Jenna Korf has a thriving coaching practice helping blended families be of loving service to innocent children and each other. Check out her  WEBSITE

Jenna Korf has a thriving coaching practice helping blended families be of loving service to innocent children and each other. Check out her WEBSITE

If so, let's do a little R & D, okay? I'm a second wife and a stepmom and I accurately describe my situation as benevolent, manageable and peaceful. That doesn't mean I don't face big challenging feelings at times. However, I am not up against painful resistance on a regular basis like some stepmoms. The nature of the situation would be challenging for anyone-it's not for the faint at heart. I feel grateful all the time for our situation, because while seeking info about blended families in order to contribute consciously, I've learned that lots of people are going through HELL. They are at best, managing tough moments and at worst, experiencing alienation, court dates, and wars over finances. Why am I doing a podcast on this? Because if you're a mom and a wife and you want to leave, I really hope you consider that the fantasy inspiring your departure could get killed quickly by a pile of daily pain. (Yes, I'm trying to scare you as much as a doctor scared Stevie Nicks into stopping cocaine.)

This week's podcast is for....

Female spouses: let me be a big splash of cold water on your face while you kindly consider that statistics show, divorced men find partners very quickly. How's that feeling in your belly right now? 

Singles out there: if you're open to dating a parent, the dating pool will immediately widen and deepen, so hear me out and consider if you'd possess a skill set as a stepparent. You're very likely to find a guy if you are open to dating a parent.

Stepparents and parents out there: We are in this together. Take Jenna's mission to heart and protect your children.

You have choices! If you need help, email me at somethingbetterpodcast@gmail.com and let me point you in the right direction. 

xoxo

Amy

"It's Not You"
Sara Eckel has been a freelance writer for more than fifteen years. Her essays and reported pieces have appeared in the New York Times, Salon, Forbes, Time Out New York, the Shambhala Sun, GOOD, Martha Stewart Living, Self, Glamour, Working Mother, Woman's Day, Cosmopolitan, and other publications. Her short fiction has appeared in Speakeasy and Sanskrit. She lives in Kingston, New York, with her husband.

Sara Eckel has been a freelance writer for more than fifteen years. Her essays and reported pieces have appeared in the New York Times, Salon, Forbes, Time Out New York, the Shambhala Sun, GOOD, Martha Stewart Living, Self, Glamour, Working Mother, Woman's Day, Cosmopolitan, and other publications. Her short fiction has appeared in Speakeasy and Sanskrit. She lives in Kingston, New York, with her husband.

Do you beat yourself up? Do you attach a judgement to a feeling? In this episode Sara points out that there is nothing wrong with loneliness...even partnered and married people feel lonely too. It's when you attach something to it that makes it worse, like "I'm lonely, so I must be a loser". That's easy to do when you've been single for a really, really, long time. Single girls, this one's for you. It's Not You. It's just life, happening for you.