Posts tagged #love
Newlywed at 56: An Interview with Hilary Powers

Hilary Powers has an incredible story of redemption to share. She wrote a memoir called Peanuts to Percocet about how her childhood as a big earner in voice over and acting cast a shadow over her life that she got out from under- sparking, shining, and spreading hope. She lived the prayer that this podcast was named for: “this or something better” and through surrender of what she could not change and exerting control over what was hers to discard, she gave up the fantasy and entered her dream. #somethingbetterpodcast #happynewyear #nevertoolate #dontgiveup #trust

Direct Communication: On Repair

I once heard Tony Robbins say something like 'if every married person behaved the way they did the first week they met their spouse, even after years together, no one would split up.' Are you polite to your spouse? Being rational and direct usually involves being kind. Today is on repair. Whether you've been married for awhile or you just hit your first bump in the road with the person you're dating, this is a review of some concepts created by Pat Allen and taught at the WANT Institute on rational communication and repair.

An Interview With Empowering Goddess Gabby Reece
Gabby Reece and Laird Hamilton

Gabby Reece and Laird Hamilton

World renowned athlete Gabby Reece is my guest on the podcast this week! She was open and intimate about being married (with three kids) to Big Wave surfer and innovator Laird Hamilton and gracious to have taken time to share her experience with us. I'm on the path of leaving my comfort zone so my dreams can come true too, right along with you. Yes, I feel vulnerable and odd when I'm asking people to meet me on the web for an interview, but it is always worth it no matter the outcome. Gabby is a personal hero and walks Something Better talk. I am super grateful to have had this chance to share an hour of her full life. Listen in, pick up her NY Times Bestseller My Foot is Too Big for the Glass Slipper and email me your thoughts!


Only Love Remains
My sister and me with my Dad in his POSSIBILITARIAN t-shirt 

My sister and me with my Dad in his POSSIBILITARIAN t-shirt 

On November 9, 2017, My Dad died. I sang to him all afternoon on the last day of his life. After awhile I ran out of lullabies, so I started making one up. I finished it the next day on the plane back to LA, to pick up a black dress and my family. It felt like I was writing it with him. It's a co-write. 

My Dad always pointed out to me that I was an artist. He put me on a train as a young kid to draw at the Art Institute of Chicago in weekend studio classes. He taught me to be humbly interested, to observe the world around me. If it weren't for that, I do not think I would be doing this podcast (and if I I hadn't had such a klunky, messy, true, good-hearted relationship with him). He and I were the two Sagittarians in the family- always inspired to get to the truth of the matter. I'm grateful for him, and I am grateful for you. 

Happy Thanksgiving. Hug your Dad.



Only Love Remains

Jerry Loftus/Amy Loftus


The moon and the stars

the sun on the flowers

the trees line the streets

waiting for rainshowers


the blood sweat and tears

the hours and the years

snow spring and heat

triumphs and fears


from outer space

all the way to this place

only love remains

only love remains

la la la la la la la la la la

la la la la

only love remains


the calendar page

the work and the wage

suddenly you see

your children age


the planes to the car

miles near and far

we come home to pray

you to the moon and the stars

Vulnerability is the Hot Ticket to Real Love
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Are you angry that you're still single? Could it be that a fear of vulnerability is keeping you from finding love? Psychologist and master matchmaker Julia Shah and I discuss the perils of knowing yourself and your inner limits without leaving the light on for vulnerable, intimate space for yourself and others. 

I myself am feeling vulnerable as I write this. I am about to get on a plane to my father's funeral. I am feeling small, for all the times I was sitting and working on this podcast, since the spring, and skipping the short available windows around my Dad's naptimes to call him. I wanted to keep working. Suddenly that feels so small and hollow. This would have been there when I got back. I also know that often times, I did call. And he was so wonderful, and so supportive of my endeavors. Among his repertoire: "Bravo, well done, good for you, the best is yet to come, that sounds great, Aim!" My Dad was very prosperous with his language. He did not like swears, even flinched if you said "I swear, I will" or something like that. He consciously used language. "Thank you," "Good" and appreciation was always on the tip of his tongue with every caregiver right til the end of his 83 years. I kept this in mind when I made this a PG podcast. My relationship with my Dad was important to me. It was messy at times, but it was honest. I treasure him, I am grateful for his influence, and the incredible opportunity to have been with him when he passed away, and to have spent the last afternoon of his life singing to him.  

My mission in all these adventures through music and writing and doing this podcast is the same. To help people feel. I am proud of this episode because I believe it contains permission to do just that. To let yourself feel your emotions, whatever they are. I think you can trust that this week, I am no doubt attending my own lecture.

xoxo Amy