I once heard Tony Robbins say something like 'if every married person behaved the way they did the first week they met their spouse, even after years together, no one would split up.' Are you polite to your spouse? Being rational and direct usually involves being kind. Today is on repair. Whether you've been married for awhile or you just hit your first bump in the road with the person you're dating, this is a review of some concepts created by Pat Allen and taught at the WANT Institute on rational communication and repair.