Posts tagged #honestsharing
Into #metoo You See
Age 29. Just a baby...who actually believed that because lots of people in the south go to church, sexual harassment wouldn't be as common as it had been in LA. It was.  Photo by Mickey Dobo, Nashville, TN

Age 29. Just a baby...who actually believed that because lots of people in the south go to church, sexual harassment wouldn't be as common as it had been in LA. It was.

Photo by Mickey Dobo, Nashville, TN

I am still re-living the feeling I had while I listened to Oprah's Golden Globes speech last night. I couldn't NOT do a podcast on the #metoo movement today. 20 years swam around my mind during her speech. At 23 I left Chicago and Second City for LA, thinking geography would clear up the discomfort of most male dominated meetings and auditions. Then I left LA for Nashville because I figured I could better navigate the shark infested waters of the entertainment industry in a smaller town, with my songs protecting me. Truth is there was no escaping the jaws of creepy, and honestly I didn't COMPLETELY know until last night IT was something that needed to change, not ME. I didn't fully realize that I've long felt unfinished in taking responsibility, because you can't take responsibility FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S STUFF. Listening to Oprah has changed me, and I felt it, as it was happening, in real time. Something old, and scared, and bundled up...unraveled in my soul. I'm tired of tiptoeing and silence. I want to be in a conversation about how a potent feminine woman has the choice to use her masculine energy to protect herself and name that which is no longer acceptable.

So what happened to me? What now? How do we move on from here? That's what I covered this week. I'm interested in a conversation, and I hope you'll listen, and email me and share with me how this is evolving for you.

xoxo

Amy

somethingbetterpodcast@gmail.com

Vulnerability is the Hot Ticket to Real Love
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Are you angry that you're still single? Could it be that a fear of vulnerability is keeping you from finding love? Psychologist and master matchmaker Julia Shah and I discuss the perils of knowing yourself and your inner limits without leaving the light on for vulnerable, intimate space for yourself and others. 

I myself am feeling vulnerable as I write this. I am about to get on a plane to my father's funeral. I am feeling small, for all the times I was sitting and working on this podcast, since the spring, and skipping the short available windows around my Dad's naptimes to call him. I wanted to keep working. Suddenly that feels so small and hollow. This would have been there when I got back. I also know that often times, I did call. And he was so wonderful, and so supportive of my endeavors. Among his repertoire: "Bravo, well done, good for you, the best is yet to come, that sounds great, Aim!" My Dad was very prosperous with his language. He did not like swears, even flinched if you said "I swear, I will" or something like that. He consciously used language. "Thank you," "Good" and appreciation was always on the tip of his tongue with every caregiver right til the end of his 83 years. I kept this in mind when I made this a PG podcast. My relationship with my Dad was important to me. It was messy at times, but it was honest. I treasure him, I am grateful for his influence, and the incredible opportunity to have been with him when he passed away, and to have spent the last afternoon of his life singing to him.  

My mission in all these adventures through music and writing and doing this podcast is the same. To help people feel. I am proud of this episode because I believe it contains permission to do just that. To let yourself feel your emotions, whatever they are. I think you can trust that this week, I am no doubt attending my own lecture.

xoxo Amy