The last person you talked to? Your in-laws? Your past? Or do you belong to your Creator? Maybe you feel a sense of belonging through a church, temple or meditation community, maybe you feel you belong to God but leave the “o” out when you write that, out of reverence. Maybe you sense you belong to Buddha, or Christ. The science of mind idea that I teach is a sense of belonging with yourself, fueled by a Higher Power or Source energy that you understand and feel content to trust. I felt validated when I finished Brene Brown’s book on the topic and recorded this shortly afterwards to reinforce what I had learned, and to encourage you to ask this of yourself.
If you were dealing with the overwhelming physical and emotional experience of becoming a mother, struggling with imbalances, and uninterested in sex, would you allow your husband to find a sexual partner on Tinder to meet his needs? My listener did that…and now she is struggling to accept the consequences of her choice, while navigating rational communication and negotiation around it.
In this episode I go into my experience opening up to spiritual solutions as I entered a constant conversation with the Universe, (or Source as you understand it, whatever you call it...) I believe it communicates back! I highly recommend you try it. As you nurture your awareness and consciousness around masculine and feminine energies, you’ll get in tune to receiving messages and signs. Check instagram for more info on OK2BKRZ story, and other stories from communicating with the great beyond, plus a “homework” assignment...
PS On the intro: My elementary school nieces visited my studio lat summer and weighed in briefly on their experience of their feminine energy-that’s who you hear in the beginning. I thought it may inspire.
The Something Better Quiz is finally here! I curated the collection from questions I heard the most after a year of podcasting, and created a quiz based on the areas where it is most common to act in contradiction to chosen energy. So if you feel stumped as to your “score” definitely download the answer key which will go into depth about the questions.
You can always write me directly for more information as well! email@example.com
My definition of prosperity is attracting and joyfully experiencing the fulfillment that is meant for you. I believe judgement and gossip is a block to that prosperity, and this episode is an exploration of the feminine principle of internal reflection on judgement and becoming your own witness to tendencies that keep you from attracting your heart’s desires. If you’re developing a deeper connection to your feminine energy, remember that just by listening, you’re doing just that!
UPLIFTING GOSSIP by Rob Brezsney
I imagine the possibility of helping to establish a tradition of uplifting
gossip, full of praise and gratitude. What about, if instead of naming the
shadowy aspects of our friends and acquaintances behind their backs, we
identified, celebrated, and propitiated their divine glory and shining
I’m way more interested in being human than I am in being spiritual, and as a result…I find myself experiencing life from a much more spiritual perspective, with a lot more compassion and patience.
Here is the passage that inspired this podcast:
"Lama Surya Das, the "Buddha from Brooklyn," is one of the handful of
Westerners who have been teaching meditation for decades. And yet, he
says we're doing it wrong.
Lama Surya Das says there are other ways to meditate besides those that
are currently popular: "So many people seem to be moving narcissistically
into self-centered happiness-seeking and quietism, not to mention the use
of mindfulness for mere effectiveness," he says. "True meditation
generates wisdom and compassion, which may be very disquieting, at
least in the short term."
"'Quiet your mind' or 'calm and clear your mind' are instructions I hear
way too much," he says. "Some teachers actually encourage people to try
to stop thinking, when in fact meditative awareness means being mindful
of thoughts and feelings, not simply trying to reduce, alter or white them
out and achieve some kind of oblivion."
"The anti-intellectual meditators, thought-swatters and imagination-
suppressors have long ruled meditation-oriented circles in the West," he
says. "But authentic meditative practices can enhance and even unleash
the creativity and imagination.'
You don't have to quiet the mind to do many of the types of meditation
he proposes. They don't involve trying to find a quiet 'moment of Zen'
apart from the messy, noisy world of work, family and children, but rather
inviting all of the noise into meditation.
My first guest of season 2, author Johanna Siegmann, has brilliantly illustrated the concepts of the podcast through her book on a very personal experience of the Tango. This blog message is going to be short: YOU MUST hear this episode and you MUST READ THIS BOOK!!! It brilliantly illuminates all that I cover on this podcast.
Today's episode is the last one of season 1, and next week marks the beginning of Season 2. I can't believe it! I am really grateful to all of the listeners, all of the women and men who stepped forward to email me, and especially those who entered into coaching. It has been a privilege. I hope that you have deepened a connection to your own spirituality. There's a joke, "even an atheist is a believer when the toilet gets clogged at a dinner party given by his boss". That's a hilarious way to explain the curiosity I have about life, that will continue on into Season 2. The curiosity is, no matter how much you develop your ability to have control over your life events through personal growth, visualization, setting and reaching goals, etc...what is your surrender point? Doesn't everyone have one? We all have blind spots that can only be uncovered through spiritual surrender. I'm interested in creating a community of consciousness where we have the safety and freedom of exploring them together, with the use of tools for rational communication and awareness of masculine and feminine energies.
Season 2 will be full of more inspiring interviews, continuing information on consciousness, masculine and feminine energies, daily life spiritual solutions, and maybe even some live SB events!
This is just the beginning!
My friend Ronnie is a surrendered wife and an empowered woman. She was a top model, she ran a modeling agency, she's a life coach and advocate for youth in her quest to end bullying, and she's been happily married for 39 years. She is such a no nonsense voice of common sense, self love and self esteem in my life. I am so grateful to share my friend with Something Better listeners.
Existing within are principles and energies that are there already. Self care and consciousness unlock the tools you need to attract, nourish and sustain the love you're longing for. Opening to spiritual solutions and digesting these age old common sense principles are the key to finding lasting love.
Thank you for listening!
Are you in your late thirties or early forties and 100% confident addressing men at your high pressure job but terrified of making eye contact and smiling at a handsome man in an elevator? Have you purchased your home, grown your investment portfolio, frozen your eggs? Do you take amazing vacations and enjoy your work benefits with friends? And are you "surviving" all of this because you do not have any romantic prospects?
Maybe you're married and longing for your husband to be more assertive? Meanwhile, you're telling him how to drive and complaining that he's like an extra kid.
Are you a single woman that is secretly mad at all men?
Did the women's movement offer us endless professional direction at the expense of our personal lives?
What if I showed you how much power you have on the inside? I believe you can turn all of your most frustrating realities around completely with the use of built in tools and gifts you already have.
Thank you for listening!!
When I felt that sad, nauseous, panicky feeling of STILL being single, I made a big decision one New Year's Day. It happened to be 1/1/11, the day I got dumped by a nice man who was definitely not right for me, but I hoped would commit to me because I was getting "old" and was in SO much fear. Hot! (not.) That actually turned out to be one of the hardest years of my life, but if I had to go back I WOULD do it all again. Because I allowed my pain to move me. I surrendered. I got closer to my Source. I worked hard, on all areas of myself, with a lot of time love and attention.
The big decision was this: I have a desire to attract commitment and lasting love, therefore I am seeking advice or experience from people who are committed in a relationship and experiencing lasting love. It was that simple, and it remains my intention today. I was motivated by one bold indelible moment that had taken place the year before: I bumped into a fellow yoga teacher who was very pregnant and overdue. She said "all my acquaintances who have never had a baby go on and on to me about what I should do...and all the birthmoms that I see just nod and smile, without a word." What was that? It burrowed into my consciousness. I wanted to be married, therefore I wanted the nod and smile of marriage, therefore I'll hang out with married people. Listen to married people. Ask them how it happened for them. Ask them to set me up. (how I met my husband, btw) In addition, if I heard about a great book on marriage from an author who wasn't married, I didn't buy it. When I attended an event with a love coach who had all the feels and buzz you could ever want, I bounced when I heard her say she was divorced and working on manifesting her "perfect" guy now. (Besides, I didn't want a perfect guy. I wanted the messy, alive human being that I would hear fumbling in the other room, whose hopes and dreams and baggage all matched mine like a puzzle.)
Here's what happened: it spilled over into other areas of my life. I stopped getting distracted by squeaky wheels that had never actually rode their wheels into the thing they were talking about. And the bottom line was, when I sought the guidance of married people, it felt POSSIBLE. I got good at it. I curated and pinpointed my search. I gravitated toward feminine energy women who were married to masculine energy men. The landscape of my acquaintances changed. I permitted lapses in professional boundaries with private yoga students whose homes I entered, and found they were enthusiastic to impart something personal about marriage to me at the end of a session. I sought out members of my personal growth community who seemed happy, and good at self care, and demonstrated trust and self respect by not meddling in their husband's affairs. I listened to them. I heard things like "Yes, I probably would've done it better, but I'm not tellin him that!" and "There's only one captain on a ship" and "He had to take a call during dinner, but I decided not to take it personally." I'd imagine myself in that scenario. I learned who to ignore. Like a woman who told me she regularly snooped in her husband's email and laid down the law that she would be the only driver because "he's such an idiot behind the wheel".
Out of this decision came a more acute understanding of myself, and what I needed. I discovered commitment to an even earlier early rise with a siesta was best for me, and I started to carve out my self employment schedule of teaching yoga and writing songs in a different way. By the time I met my husband, I had let go of evening classes on Monday and Thursday nights. Precisely the days he did not have his kids. (Not an accident. A law of the Universe at work.) My afternoon siesta opening turned into an opportunity to pick up his kids after school once we had made a commitment to dating long term.
I still maintain steady exposure to people who are committed to kindness and respect towards their spouse, and avoid those who are not. Even a recent interview with Sarah Jessica Parker on the Goop podcast proved to be something that will remain with me. When asked about her lasting marriage, she said something like, 'it's so satisfying to be irritated, but I'm sure he gets irritated with me, too.' She talked about seeing her future with her husband and wondered if a small thing is really important in the face of that? This is the kind of thing I am talking about. Big picture is great, but if you want how, you gotta hear from people in it. So in the spirit of offering to you what I myself needed, I'm sharing from my present-day treasured, spiritual, messy married life with my husband Oliver. I love him more than when I met him. Hope I can help you trust that he or she is out there, and fulfillment is possible. Because it is.
Have you ever entered a relationship with someone and questioned their integrity but felt convinced that you will be the one to receive the best of them, despite the questionable motives and behaviors that they have displayed? Have you ever left an encounter with a person and felt like you could fall fast asleep? Have you ever been flooded with surprising emotions at moments, and at others, unable to sense what you yourself are feeling inside?
You may be an empath.
It's imperative to understand yourself better if you are, because you'll require specific tools for self care, and you'll need to become aware that you're a magnet for people who maintain difficult personality traits.
In this week's podcast, live Tuesday morning, July 24th, I share my experience of two radically informative books on the topic, which are both easy to purchase on the books page of this website: The Empath's Survival Guide by Dr. Judith Orloff, and Dodging Energy Vampires by Dr. Christiane Northrup.
Thank you for listening!!
My new album "Sweetest Surrender" is out today (podcast theme song) and this week's podcast is a peek into some insight and fun facts about where the songs came from. I hope you enjoy the music!!
This week I go deeper into some of the correspondence I had with my first single, masculine man listener who emailed me. I answer some of his questions and concerns, and also expand on how we both think men get a raw deal at times. I want the feminine female listeners to hear from the inner world of a single guy and know they go through their own challenges on this journey too.
You are more than just a bag of bones- you are a consciousness. You are a spiritual being in a vessel that is your responsibility. If you're leaving your comfort zone to change and grow, deep care is more important than ever. Each ailment, pain, illness and discomfort delivers information and awareness, if you will allow for that. A tool paramount to this process is developing a personal awareness of your chakras--what Deepak Chopra calls "junction points between physiology and consciousness". One more not to my female singles...realize, ladies....that when you let someone in with intercourse, you are letting them into more than just your physical body...you are letting them into each and every chakra. Are they worthy?
Matt Casella (on left) and Brendan "Grease" Greeley are old friends from Chicago. They happen to be two of my brother's closest friends-I've known them since they were little kids, and now they are old enough for me to pretend we are all the same age! (Hahaaa) They are back on the podcast again after being one of my very first interviews, and this time we caught up with eligible bachelor Grease about his latest dating adventures and discussed what Pat Allen calls "the three Cs"...communication, chemistry, and compatibility.
I will not ever, ever tire of listener questions. Keep 'em coming, listeners!! This week I weigh in on a few that I find come regularly.
Thanks for letting me be a part of your process!
This week I responded to a few listeners by offering a single's perspective, a married perspective, and a human being perspective...because regardless of whether or not you're in a relationship, we are all in an ever evolving human experience.
The truth is, there is nowhere to quickly "get to" in order to be "okay". It's an illusion, and everywhere you look (if you live in a city with billboards or watch TV) you'll be told there is a place at which you have to arrive, a thing you have to buy, a person you "neeeeeed" to know in order to be okay. However, the world is changing. PROCESS really is being embraced by our society, little by little. My mission here is to get you to fill the void spiritually and enter into a student orientation to yourself and your interactions, (which breeds consciousness) and fall in love with your own life. Wayne Dyer taught "NOWHERE" can also be seen as NOW HERE. So here's to "getting nowhere" to reframe it into NOW HERE- you might find yourself trusting the process!!
Have you ever seen a woman walk into a room and gone "OK, she's going somewhere." ? I have. I am a bit of a casting agent inside. (I actually think I'd be great at it.) When I lived in Nashville I used to internally bet on gals that I was seeing at the venues I was playing. I had a little memory bank going of people I thought would succeed. (I'm 3 for 3 at the moment--they were all licensed multiple times on the television drama "Nashville").
Well THAT'S how I felt about Ariel Kiley when I met her years ago. I got on her mailing list and followed her writing and workshops. She's on my inner "One to Watch" list. All I can say is, you gotta hear this. She's bound to help anyone who listens to this episode. Her voice alone is like a warm bath, and she's an old soul carrying massive wisdom.